Date Night

Life is busy. There are no two ways about it, and our house feels perpetually full of activity. It is no wonder that more often than not, my husband and I are fast asleep by 9:00 p.m. We’re worn out! While a good night’s sleep is a necessity these days, I have to admit it doesn’t bode well for frequent and open communication with your spouse.

For me, communication with my spouse is absolutely critical. Actually, communication in all my relationships is imperative – I’m a talker. What can I say? I need to talk through ideas, emotions, and even passing thoughts, so dialogue with those close to me is key. Without it, I feel disconnected and lonely. I know it is silly, but it is true.

However, when you have two energetic children, two working parents, and a full schedule, it seems communication with your husband is the first thing to go. I’ve noticed this repeatedly over the last few years. My husband and I will go days or at times a week or two without really connecting. We speak to each other sporadically as we address the needs of our children which could be during play time with the kids, over meals or anything in between, but the communication is disjointed, often interrupted, and far from satisfying.

As a result, I’ve reevaluated my position on date nights.  I remember when I was single, the idea of date nights seemed somewhat sad. The concept of literally scheduling a night to connect with the person you love seemed to zap it of all romance. Now, in my wiser years, I can see why couples have decided to add date night to their calendars. It is something to look forward to when the busy days turn into weeks. It is the guarantee of a connection, and an opportunity to cherish each other and the life that you’re building together.

That’s it, I’ve convinced myself. I’m adding date night to my calendar! I’m investing in my marriage and in myself because communication is important. Let people call it lame, lacking in spontaneity or just plain sad. I for one don’t care. I care about connecting with the person that I have chosen – and would happily choose again - to spend the rest of my life with. Date night? Can’t Wait!

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